Life happens to all of us but I believe that it’s time that we start happening to life. Truth is, none of us can control the family we are born into, nor things that occurred in our childhood. But what we can do is choose to heal no matter what.
Growing up, I was physically and psychologically abused by my mother’s second husband. This led to defiant behavior, anxiety, and self-esteem issues.
Today I live with the diagnosis of PTSD and manic depression. But here’s the deal: I don’t feel sorry for myself. I no later hold anything in my heart towards my mom for her decision to remain in a marriage to a man who abused her and her children.
But how did I get here? Whoo chile…Through tons of prayer, therapy and inner work. I had to realize that I am in control of no one but Carla. I do not choose to live in denial by acting as if certain things didn’t happen in my life. I chose to HEAL. I chose my FREEDOM. I chose to learn how to love and nurture my inner child back to a healthy condition. Guess what else? You can too! But first let’s identify 5 signs that your inner child may need healing:
You tend to REACT vs RESPOND– During this time our adult self is trying to manage or control the outside that’s making them feel uncomfortable on the inside.
Overvaluing Independence– Your mindset is I don’t need anyone. I got it. You are not open to receiving help nor do you ask for it. This mindset can derive from constant disappointment or childhood trauma.
Destructive Coping Behaviors– Here you will do anything to NOT feel the pain. Includes: sex, drugs, shopping, overeating, gambling, and even chronic procrastination.
Poor Mental & Emotional Health– This can show up as depression, feeling unmotivated, difficulty sleeping, weight gain or loss, loss of focus, increased anxiety; etc.
Repeating Patterns in Relationships– People with attachment wounds tend to unconsciously recreate attachment patterns they experienced as a child in their adult relationships including platonic friendships. This means they are essentially repeating patterns of childhood trauma.
If you can relate to any of the above, I want you to pause and take a deep breath while reminding yourself that you are safe, and you are loved.
Now that you’ve identified that you may be in need of healing, I’d like to invite you to check out a 2-hour video replay training that includes a 46 page powerpoint presentation from a virtual training I hosted a few weeks ago: How to Heal Your Inner Child.
Remember: What happened to you, may not be your fault, but healing is YOUR responsibility.
Copy and paste the following link to purchase the virtual video training today: bit.ly/innerchildbehealed